Most couples enter a marriage anticipating a wonderful life together that will last forever. But jealousy is a problem that could be missed until it's too late. Most of us will recall how when we were on our own, we wanted to have someone who would hold and embrace us. And then when we ultimately get that someone, we find ourselves so fearful we might lose them that all of a sudden dark thoughts begin to obsess us. Jealousy, dread, anxiety, and other disturbing tricks of the mind keep us awake tossing and turning.
So what can you do if you feel jealous in a relationship? The following are crucial guidelines for you to begin reeling in your jealous emotions.
1. You can start by preventing jealousy from taking root in the first place. Don't break your partner's trust in you. If you feel you must you can set limits in the relationship and communicate those clearly to your partner. If your spouse breaks your trust and violates limits you have both agreed upon, don't pretend you don't have any feelings. But try to talk about your feelings with your partner in a composed way.
2. Most of the time, jealousy is just in your imagination. We can use our imaginations in a good way or in a way that is not productive. If you let jealousy gain any traction in your relationship it can cause your thoughts to become obsessive and you start to feel as though your mind won't focus on anything else.
3. Perhaps one of the most harmful errors you can make when you share your life with another person is to begin to feel as though you possess each other. Besides, when we restrict someone it always comes back to haunt us. Even when they appear to comply with your demands, everyone has a mind of their own, and they'll start to hold it against you and pull farther away from you.
4. If there's a disagreement over jealousy the two of you should voice your fears and suggest solutions. Such a conversation should be based on love, respect, and trust, because you should have the right kind of attention from a partner.
5. Always think back to the fact that your partner has freely chosen you. Don't make them regret it by constantly provoking them. They must have found something in you that attracted them and unless you push them away, they will probably continue to love you for who you are.
6. Don't just be the person they fell in love with, be their friend too. If your spouse knows they can trust you without a doubt and, just as much as loving you, they also like simply being around you, then the marriage will be better and any reasons you had for being jealous will go away.
7. If your partner has never given you any reason to question their fidelity, then you probably shouldn't worry. Now if you find yourself with a partner who's lied to you or betrayed you, and the jealousy is something that you cannot get over, you might think about getting out of that relationship. But until someone has actually done something that makes you lose your trust in them, you don't have any solid ground for doubting them.
Do something about jealousy in your relationship so that you hold onto your love!
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